Being honest with people about your sexuality is called coming out. For many gay people, particularly if they are in their teenage years or early twenties, this can be a very worrying time, especially when it comes to telling your parents.

It is likely you will preamble around the decision; put it off; and just generally try to ignore it. And for a time this may be okay. Indeed, telling somebody else you are close to, (such as an aunt, uncle or sibling), first of all is often a great way to lay a foundation.

They will not only be able to help you telling your parents of course, but will also be able to give you some advice and words of support.

It is also important to understand that, in most likelihood, your parents will be shocked. Try and prepare for this, and have your answers and reasoning practiced. Most parents are understanding; they are people just like you and will, whether it is over a long time or not, accept and support your decision.

The trickiest thing you will probably need to decide upon; is when and where you will make your announcement. At the christening of your nephew is not advisable for example. Try to pick a time when it is just the group of you on your own, and with no other distractions.

To try and help you on your way to the announcement, many people find it useful to drop hints and “plant” suggestions. Not only will this make it easier on you, but it will also help your parents as they will most likely guess that you are gay for themselves. It will also give them longer to come to terms with the truth too.

It is a cliché, but that doesn’t make the fact that being honest is always the best policy any less true. However, if you really are concerned with how your parents will react, consider the option of not telling them.

It is not easy telling your parents you are gay, but your life will be so much better when you have. You will finally be able to be the individual you are.